During my career as a midwife, I both worked at clients’ homes and in a hospital. During that time, I was strongly committed to supporting the future parents. Not only during the pregnancy but also during the delivery.
Knowledge leads to empowerment but in the case of a delivery knowledge also leads to power! A delivery is a unique experience with a lot of impact so it strikes me to see how light-hearted people can be during pregnancy; they seem to let things happen to them. Even though this might be a good attitude, because giving birth is partly letting go, but you can only let go when you trust and know what is going to happen and not if you are left completely unaware. Also, high expectations about the delivery can lead to panic, anxiety and frustration when these expectations do not come true. Managing expectations can therefore be vital.
Often future parents enter the room with the partner coming along because the pregnant woman suggested this. But when after the third session the partner shakes my hand with great enthusiasm and a glare in the eyes and saying to trust they can do the delivery successfully together, I am really happy and satisfied. Both will have received the same information and both know what they have to do, they are a team!
No one can predict how the delivery will be, but for me it is important to know that you will have been well prepared after the course and you can afterwards say: we had a delightful delivery!